The TV presenter, 40, regularly discusses hot-button issues on This Morning, which she has co-hosted with Phillip Schofield since 2009.
However, in an extract from her new book Reflections, seen by The Sun, Holly admitted drawing criticism for her beliefs sometimes isn’t worth it.
Candid: Holly Willoughby has revealed she sometimes waters down her personal opinions to avoid controversy and cancel culture
She wrote: ‘To fit in with other people’s expectations of me, I have ended up simplifying myself and swallowing my voice so that I stay in the pigeonhole I’m expected to sit in.
‘This can mean watering myself down. The moment you have an opinion or come down hard on one side of a debate or the other, in somebody’s eyes it will be seen as controversial or wrong.
‘I err on the side of caution because I want to go home and be a mum and focus on other things in my life.’
Holly added that to go out on a limb and say what you think can be ‘scary’ so it’s easier to use other people’s opinions.
Career: The TV presenter, 40, regularly discusses hot-button issues on This Morning, which she has co-hosted with Phillip Schofield since 2009
However, the presenter said every time you do that, you end up not knowing what you want anymore.
It comes after Holly joked her ‘t**s are around [her] knees’ in a candid chat on Fearne Cotton’s Happy Place podcast.
She said: ‘We are heading towards that kind of menopausal time, skin is changing, hair is changing, body’s changing – even having had a baby the shape of your body completely changes.
‘I think that it’s really important in those moment rather than look down and go, ‘Oh my god, look at everything changing, I’m getting old, I’m getting more wrinkled. Oh my God, my t**s are around my knees.’
Opinions: However, in an extract from her new book Reflections, Holly admitted drawing criticism for her beliefs sometimes isn’t worth it
‘Instead of looking down, you’ve sort of got to look up with it and go, ‘God, my body was able to carry a baby and my boobs breastfed three children and they were fine’.
‘…You got to go, “Yes my face is starting to sag and my eyes are blood shot and the rest of it”, but “I’m healthy and I’m ok and getting older is a privilege because not everyone else gets to be here”.’
The star is married to TV producer Dan Baldwin and the couple have children Harry, 12, Belle, 10, and Chester, seven.
Holly gushed over her husband of 14 years, quipping it’s ‘fantastic’ that she still fancies him, while discussing how she become disconnected from her sense of self.
She wrote: ‘To fit in with other people’s expectations of me, I have ended up simplifying myself and swallowing my voice so that I stay in the pigeonhole I’m expected to sit in’
Holly said on Zoe Ball’s Radio 2 show: ‘I have a very happy relationship with my husband. I love him, I still fancy him – which is fantastic.’
Yet she elaborated on Heart Radio: ‘The last few years I’ve kind of been looking inward a little bit. And I sort of got to this stage in life where I was like “I’ve got a really lovely life, I love my husband, I fancy my husband. I’ve got great kids. I’m very blessed in many, many ways, but something is missing.”
‘And I couldn’t work out what it was, and eventually having looked inwardly, I sort of went “God, it’s me! I’m missing!” I’d spent my whole life kind of doing this long to-do list, tick-list, like “da, da, da, da, da”and we run, and we keep going and we keep going, keep going…
‘And I suddenly thought “I don’t know who I am, I don’t even know what music I like, I don’t know what my tastes are anymore.”‘
‘I still fancy him’: Holly recently gushed over husband Dan Baldwin and her ‘blessed’ life but admitted she ‘lost’ herself trying to juggle family routine in a candid chat (pictured in 2016)
Elsewhere in the chat, Holly revealed that she tries to be strict about not letting her work life impact family life, joking that she becomes an ‘absolute snob’ when she walks through the door.
Radio host Amanda Holden said: ‘In your book you describe yourself as when you go home you literally shut the door on all the kind of noise of our industry and everything out there. Who are you behind that door?’
To which Holly quipped: ‘An absolute slob! I get in, take the heels off, I lie on the sofa. I sleep in my make-up… No I don’t do that
‘I’m very much mum and I’m very much, you know just I think what we all do really. I think I have to shut the door on work otherwise it just takes over, like it’s too much, otherwise.’
Family fun: Holly is married to TV producer Dan and the couple have Harry, 12, Belle, 10, and Chester, seven